“An increasing number of Swedish schools support honorary culture” Mariet Ghadimi: The girls in the free zone is threatened.
By – Brünnhilde
Not being able to meet friends after school, unable to join sport activities and forbidden to talk to guys. Forced marriages. It is the everyday reality for tens of thousands of girls living here in the world’s most equal country.
“More and more people talk openly about this – society can not sit and refuse to look any further,” says Mariet Ghadimi, 45.
But as knowledge about honorary oppression increases, development in other areas stalls and falls backwards, she warns:
“Previously, school has been a free zone for those who suffer. There, these girls have been able to live a little more freely and to feel a little more like others. But unfortunately this has changed in recent years – more and more staff with honorary values have entered the schools. Among those include teachers, curators and also in social services and police. Girls who belong to TRIS can say that “I feel controlled at school by a relative working there.”
Mariet Ghadimi sees a big danger in this.
“It must be understood that all those employed in the school must share the school’s value base, including and especially gender equality.
She thinks there should be mandatory education on honorary culture, for example in teacher education, police school and socio-education.
Just last year, TRIS had thousands of cases. The association has provided sheltered housing, education for municipalities, lectures in schools and much more. Recently Mariet Ghadimi Raoul was awarded the Wallenberg Prize for her work.
Mariet Ghadimi was herself strictly raised by honors standards.
“My parents had an authoritarian breeders style that clashed with what I learned about children’s rights in school. The older I became, the more restrictions I faced. For example, it was a great sadness not to be able to have a sleepover with any friend. My parents always wanted to keep an eye on where I was and who I met. I could never do anything spontaneously. I felt so strongly that I wanted to live a more free life and be like my friends!”
She describes it as a form of double life:
“I could not be who I am, either at home or at school. I held up a facade and pretended that I had it like everyone else.”
When Mariet went to high school, something happened that inspired her to begin her fight for this issue seriously.
“One of my close friends was expelled to another country. She was only 15 years old when she disappeared.”
In 2002, the same year that Fadime Sahindal was murdered by her father, Mariet and her two sisters formed TRIS. For the first six years, Mariet worked ideally while studying for socionom. Today she works at TRIS 70 percent, and in the rest of her time she teaches at Stockhoms University.
Some girls seeking help have finally had enough of violence and oppression, and are so desperate to leave their family, their school and their whole background.
“These girls are incredibly strong. We help them find their own way,” she explains
When asked where her drive comes from, she answered, “It’s a combination of my own experiences, and that I’m basically socionomic. I could never live with myself if I did not do anything.”
In terms of counteracting honorary oppression in recent years, Mariet comments, “The theoretical knowledge has increased. However the practical practice, especially how it works in reality when the social service is required to help, for example, is very much neglected.”